-Excerpt from “Way to Inner Peace” by Archbishop Fulton Sheen
Our young women are being sexualized…where are their fathers?
I recently attended a high school soccer game, and at halftime, the school band performed, along with the majorettes. As my wife and I enjoyed listening to the band, I couldn’t help but notice the “dances” being performed by the young women who were majorettes. As I watched, I became uneasy. The dances were extremely sexual and the young girls were scantily dressed. I felt uncomfortable watching them because I felt it was inappropriate. My thoughts moved to my own daughter who is a cheerleader. Many of her “cheers” were also dances that were sexualized. That evening, I spoke with her about these dances and listened to her perspective. As I assume many high school aged girls would respond, she thought that the dances were more about choreography and style than sexual. As I further explained my reasoning for my words, she began to understand. Was I being too critical? Too overbearing?
Our society today sexualizes our young women and makes them believe that they are free to dress and act as they want – with absolutely no ramifications. Men in society should have self-control. Men in society should only be looking at them in the most pure and wholesome way. Jesus said:
-Mark 7:20-23
Many women today believe that they are free to dress and act anyway they want and it should not be cause for any concern. I disagree. My contention is two-fold.
One, men are innately driven to be attracted to the opposite sex and many were never taught to be respectful and to control their thoughts and actions. Self-control is a learned behavior that comes through faith and learning how to be a gentleman from role models that are gentlemen. Men have “animal instincts” when it comes to sexuality and it takes a mindset of self-control to be a man of God. Jesus spoke to all men when He said:
-Matthew 5:28
It is our responsibility as fathers, brothers, grandfathers, uncles, etc. to teach morality to our younger generations.
Secondly, all of us, especially women, should have the decency to dress appropriately, with modesty as our guide. Even the youngest females today are told they must be beautiful and desirable. Thus, is it any wonder that our youth strive to be physically desirous? We, as parents and role-models, have done nothing to change this culture.
Many men in our society do not have faith or God to lead them – they are led by our culture which pushes sex and lust. It’s like putting candy or toys in front of a child and then telling them it is wrong to want these things. Without the gift of self-control, men today are watching these dances and then acting upon their animal behaviors as they treat women as mere objects and not as the gifts that have come from our Creator.
We as a society, and as parents, are offering up our young women as bait – having them dance seductively. Why? Why do we want our young women to look and act sexy? Why do we allow them to dress scantily and dance provocatively? We are their parents! We are their fathers! We are supposed to be watching over them – protecting them. We should be teaching our daughters how to be God-fearing young women who display dignity and modesty. Instead, we promote their “performances” and purchase the clothing that barely covers their bodies. Then we ask why some women are treated as sex objects? What are we doing to prevent it?
Only our faith can lead our youth to respect their bodies and their sexuality. We are at a critical point now – one where it is imperative to stand up and defend what is wholesome.
Parents, many of whom must recognize the need to follow the teachings of Christianity themselves, are to set the example and be the parents who defend our children from this imposing immoral culture.
I ask you to consider this question…
Would you allow any man to look upon your daughter with lust as she dances for him in a sexual manner? Does that bother you? If it does, it is time for you to speak up and lead your family. And if it doesn’t, it is time for you to pick up your bible and read the words of the One who created your daughter. She is truly His but He has entrusted you to be her father on earth. He chose you, apart from all others, to be this young woman’s father. She needs to know that you are there to guide her, protect her, and love her. She also needs to know that her father isn’t looking at other women lustfully, but has self-control as a man of God.
Be that man. Be that father.